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I’m a Big Girl and I Posed Naked

Yep, I sure did. My husband had a really shitty day yesterday.  He was still recovering mentally from being in a nasty car wreck during rush hour, so I left him alone for a bit so he could surf the net. But then we got to talking dirty on IM…yeah, real dirty and after a bit of that he came out and put action to his thoughts.  It was hot.  We had dinner, got to talking about stuff and then while having a cigar and a beer I sprung the idea of posing for nudies. He sprung something else and I was back in the bedroom. 🙂

After the kids went to bed and my honey posted his blog, we got busy. I’ve always HATED having my picture taken. H-A-T-E-D!!!!!  This was different, he posed me, directed every shot and decided what was good and what was not. I told him that he had to make the call because like most every woman on the planet – I would be too critical.

It was a really great experience, I must say. Letting my husband control all aspects of the shoot allowed me to just let it happen. I was pretty happy with how it all went. I was still a bit nervous but I looked way better than I expected I would and seeing myself through his eyes made me feel really sexy.  I want to do it again, it was that amazing. I already know it will be better because my nerves will be gone. Oh and let me just say that watching my husband get aroused while taking pics of me was an added bonus. So was the third round of lovemaking he treated me to right after. I’m pretty sure that all that adrenaline that had him wound up after the accident was used up by bedtime.

I highly recommend doing this at some point, there really is nothing sexier than becoming your husband’s personal playmate. It’s both empowering and a lot of fun!

 

 

I Am Not A Fetish

I am a woman, I am a sexual being and I am a curvy BBW. The books will say that anyone who finds me attractive is perverse and has a “fetish” because I do not conform to the “societal norm of attractiveness”. Here’s what I say on that, when more than 2/3rds of Adult Americans over age 20 are considered overweight and more than 1/3rd are flat out obese, maybe it’s time to reconsider what may be the “societal norm of attractiveness”.

I’ve always been a big girl and I’ve never had a problem attracting men. I may have just been super lucky in finding a shit ton of fat fetishists but I doubt that.  I suspect that it’s been more often the case that men have picked me not because of my thickness but many times despite it. Self confidence is usually the driving force behind attraction. While there are definitely men who find fat sexy, why is that any different than men being “boob men”, “ass men” or lovers of blondes, brunettes or redheads? It’s not, it’s a preference. Calling sexual attraction to curvy/thick/fat/large women a fetish is simply another way for society to ostracize and shame people. If you think I’m hot, you’re a fucked up pervert. Nice, right?

Fuck you, society and all you judgmental psychologists. Sexual attraction to inanimate objects is one thing but to another human being? What the fuck ever!

My husband may be a bit of a pervert (and I thank the good Lord for it daily!!) but it’s not because I’m a big girl, it’s because I’m a sexy bitch and he’s damn creative! Woot! Woot!

So, in closing let me just say that sexual attraction between humans varies and as long as it’s all consensual, there isn’t a damn thing wrong with any of it. Trying to suggest that someone is abnormal for having a healthy sexual appetite is a form of shaming the world can do without.